Sunday, April 10, 2011
I have always been considered a perfectionist. I thought, well, what's wrong with that, He commands us to be perfect. Now No. 1. I understand that it is through His Son. No. 2. Not all at once. So, still what's wrong with that? Well it's a matter of expectation.
What do I expect of myself? How do I know if it's reasonable? I expect that I'll always fall short and so I don't try; I give up before I've begun. I think in the theoretical and proclaim that there's no reason that I shouldn't be able to accomplish a goal that I've set. I can imagine it, and I believe we're only limited by our imagination...
Better yet, what expectations do I have for my children. I want them to do and be their best. Just because I see their potential doesn't mean they are ready to achieve it today. Do I put the same unrealistic expectations on them. How about teachers, community leaders, corporations, the government. Am I fair in their capacity today or do I expect immediate perfection of them too? Do I assume that collectively, these imperfect people are somehow more perfect. Perhaps they are more balanced, but eventually some imperfect person is making a decision.
Allow others a safe place to try. Encourage, uplift, help them be successful. Motivate, laugh, love them on their difficult journey to perfection. Support, be kind, be understanding during times of failure. It's no easier for them. Give them the gentleness I desire. So...the golden rule still works. If I see a vision of what can be and am patient in achieving it, others will afford me the same generosity. We all need elbow room in growth, and a soul ready to heal us from a long day fighting our battles.
New theory. I can't tie my shoes today. But I won't get better if I don't try. Dream for the stars. Have an expectation that I can achieve. He wants me to be and feel successful and when I don't know how ask Him. Keep that object in view and set a more reasonable absolutely ridiculously easy task and then another easy one. Bunny ear. Bunny ear. I can do this. Okay. So to most of you likely figured it out in 2nd grade, but I'm grateful for God's revelations to each of us. I can become like Him by becoming like a child. I am His child. Goal: today I'll begin by tying my shoes.
* I guess I was asking for perfection on this blog... it's been sitting in the cue for months now. Just hand in your homework, imperfect and get credit for it, even if it's only partial.
Posted by E McL at 7:19 AM